Marriage: a work in progress

Do you use Valentine’s Day as a day to show your partner how much you love them? Will you be spending money on a card? Gifts? A meal? A night out?

You know there’s nothing wrong with making a special effort one day of the year to show your partner how special they are as long as you don’t make it the ONLY time in the year that you do that.

Relationships require effort. Listening to your partner, making time for them, showing them with action and affection how important they are.

I started a relationship with my husband when I was around 20 and at 22 we were married. He has been a rock for me and the kids in many tough times. He is kind, generous and will go the extra mile to be sure the kids are safe and well.

We have had so many happy times but we have also had many really tough times. Being together for so many years means that you both grow up together. You change with life’s experiences and sometimes as the years pass your roles in the family and relationship alter. All of that can have a huge impact on how you get on, your expectations of each other and for your future together. I’m definitely not the same person I was when we started dating at 20, I’m also no longer a carer or stay at home mum. My roles have completely changed.

Remember to keep talking and listening to each other. Flowers and gifts are lovely but what’s better? To feel like your partner is supporting you and interested in your life or a bunch of red roses? Those small everyday acts of love such as: sorting the kids so you can have an extra hour in bed, having dinner ready for you after a long day at work, clearing up your mess, giving you a foot massage, listening to you tell them about your tough day at work, organising a childminder and taking you out, running you a hot bath for when you get in from work……

Those daily acts of love are the things that will keep you together as a couple. Checking in with each other and taking steps to improve things when you need to. Don’t get complacent and comfortable. Marriage isn’t meant to be easy but when it’s a partnership witness both partners equally committed to working through problems it’s so worth it.

Not everyone is gonna make it with the same person forever but if you’ve given it your all. You wont have regrets. You’ll know that you worked at it and you just weren’t right for one another.

So spoil your partners today, please. Remember though that your marriage is a constant work in progress, so treat it as such. Everyday is a day to show each other your love. If you can do that you will go from strength to strength.

❤️ Happy Valentines Day All ❤️

Published by smilingqueenbee

A mum of 3 / angel mum of 2 Vegan Health and fitness lover Works as a specialised carer for children with disabilities

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